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Secrets and lies : the price we pay when we deceive the people we love, Jane Isay, (electronic resource)

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"By the author of Walking on Eggshells, a compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has long been hidden. Secrets, large and small, are a fact of human life. This book explores the impact of keeping secrets and the power of truth. Secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships. Even so, Jane Isay has found, people survive learning the most disturbing facts that have been hidden from them. And secret keepers are relieved when they finally reveal themselves--even the things they are ashamed of--to the people they care about. Much depends, Isay writes, on the way of telling and the way of hearing. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of secrets can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them. Powered by detailed stories and Isay's compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are in families. The big ones--affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, hidden siblings--can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With specific guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay's book reveals the art of surviving a secret. "--
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eng
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Secrets and lies : the price we pay when we deceive the people we love
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Secrets and lies
Title remainder
the price we pay when we deceive the people we love
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Jane Isay
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eng
Summary
"By the author of Walking on Eggshells, a compellingly readable journey into the realm of family secrets, offering lessons and insights for those who are hiding the truth and those who discover what has long been hidden. Secrets, large and small, are a fact of human life. This book explores the impact of keeping secrets and the power of truth. Secrets can damage our sense of self and our relationships. Even so, Jane Isay has found, people survive learning the most disturbing facts that have been hidden from them. And secret keepers are relieved when they finally reveal themselves--even the things they are ashamed of--to the people they care about. Much depends, Isay writes, on the way of telling and the way of hearing. Jane Isay was both a secret finder and a secret keeper. After fifteen years of marriage her husband admitted he was gay, but together they decided to keep it a secret for the sake of their two sons. Building on her personal experience, sixty intimate interviews, and extensive research into the psychology of secrets, Isay shows how the pain of secrets can be lightened by full disclosure, genuine apology, and time. Sometimes the truth sunders relationships, but often it saves them. Powered by detailed stories and Isay's compassionate analysis, Secrets and Lies reveals how universal secrets are in families. The big ones--affairs, homosexuality, parentage, suicide, abuse, hidden siblings--can be ruinous at first, but the effects need not last forever, and Isay shows us what makes the difference. With specific guidelines for those who keep secrets and those who find them out, Isay's book reveals the art of surviving a secret. "--
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Isay, Jane
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306.85
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LC call number
HQ76.13
LC item number
.I83 2014
Literary form
non fiction
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  • Gay fathers
  • Closeted gays
  • Family secrets
  • Families
  • Deception
  • SELF-HELP / General
  • SOCIAL SCIENCE / Sociology / Marriage & Family
  • FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS / General
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Secrets and lies : the price we pay when we deceive the people we love, Jane Isay, (electronic resource)
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http://sfpl.lib.overdrive.com/ContentDetails.htm?ID=D55F2073-80CD-42FF-B06A-67C1BD92E70A
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unknown
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1 online resource
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online
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9781306190152
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(electronic bk.)
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computer
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rdamedia
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550266
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remote
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(OCoLC)865157065
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Secrets and lies : the price we pay when we deceive the people we love, Jane Isay, (electronic resource)
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http://sfpl.lib.overdrive.com/ContentDetails.htm?ID=D55F2073-80CD-42FF-B06A-67C1BD92E70A
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online resource
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rdacarrier
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text
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rdacontent
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unknown
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1 online resource
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online
Isbn
9781306190152
Isbn Type
(electronic bk.)
Media category
computer
Media MARC source
rdamedia
Media type code
  • c
http://library.link/vocab/ext/overdrive/overdriveId
550266
Specific material designation
remote
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(OCoLC)865157065

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